7-Step Foolproof Guide To Creating A Terrible RelationshipNo one SAYS they want a terrible relationship, yet so many people go about creating them that we need to assume they must WANT them So, here's my 7 Step foolproof guide to creating a terrible relationship
What Does Your Child Really Need From You?Most parents want to be good parents Yet parenting is one of those things that does not have hard and fast rules
Forgiveness: Acceptance And Letting GoHave you ever noticed the difference in people who are able to easily let go of resentment and forgive, and those who stay in anger and blame
What I have noticed is that those who continue to stay in blame and resentment are often people who see themselves as victims of other people's choices
When Not To Start A RelationshipHave you recently ended a relationship or are you recently divorced Are you thinking about dating again
Intimacy With YourselfOver the 40 years that I have been counseling individual and couples, I have very often worked with people who are considering leaving their marriage Often they say things like:
* I no longer feel close or intimate with my spouse
Parenting Adolescents When You Have Changed The RulesMarilee had grown up with very strict authoritarian parents, and decided that when she had children she would not be controlling with them the way her parents had been with her Unfortunately, the only thing she knew to do was to be a permissive parent, which meant that instead of controlling her children, her children controlled her
Parenting: Emotional IncestJacob, a participant in one of my telephone support groups, was exploring the fact that he generally didn't like to be touched He was sharing with the group a situation that used to happen with his mother
Parents: Letting Go Of GuiltHow are your children doing If they are doing well, then I'm sure you feel good about your parenting
If I Am Myself, I Will End Up AlonePeggy had been married to James for 14 years when she first consulted with me for help with her relationship and her anxiety
'I can't stand being in this marriage anymore
Control And Resistance - The Relationship Gremlins'I'm so sick and tired of Andrea's anger and bossiness that I'm about ready to leave this relationship,' said Paul in our phone counseling session 'Everything has to be her way
Relationships: Mysteries Of AttractionWe are attracted to each other at our common level of woundedness and our common level of health
What does this mean
Leaving An Abusive RelationshipJennifer consulted with me regarding her 18-year marriage
'I just don't know what to do
Commitment Phobia: Are You Commitment PhobicIn order to have both our personal freedom and be in a committed relationship, we need to learn to take responsibility for our own feelings rather than the other person's feelings, and we need to be willing to lose the other person rather than lose ourselves. Commitment phobia heals when you become strong enough to be true to yourself, even in the face of another's anger, rejection, or loss. If yo
Parents, Kids And Time AloneMany people grow up not knowing how to be alone with themselves. Because they were either always in front of a TV or being entertained by their parents, they never discovered how to 'play by themselves.'
Kid Time And Couple TimeIf the real reason for not spending time together is truly about not enough time, then you need to consider how you can get help, such as hiring a neighborhood teenager, to do some chores or spend some time with young children.
Self-Judgment Versus Self-CompassionMoving out of self-judgment and into self-compassion takes much practice. Most of us have been practicing self-judgment for so long that it has become our automatic way of being. It takes much consciousness to move into self-compassion, but with practice you can move out of your automatic judgmental thought and into a conscious compassionate thought.
How Do You Know When You Are In Love'How can I know when I'm really in love?' asked Ruby, a client of mine. 'How can I know if what I feel for Jim is really love or just infatuation? How can I know if this feeling will last?'
Sustaining Romance After Becoming ParentsMoving out of the intent to get love and avoid pain and into the intent to give and share love is a personal process of inner growth. It takes both people desiring to learn how to fill themselves with love so that they have love to share to create and sustain a fulfilling romantic relationship. As parents with limited time to spend with each other, doing this inner work is essential for the relati
Managing LonelinessI have discovered that there are two core feelings that most people will do almost anything to avoid feeling: loneliness and helplessness.
Power Struggles - Being Right or Being LovingThe intent to learn is about being in compassion for both yourself and your partner. When caring and compassion are more important than winning and being right, you will find a way for both of you to win.
Do You Want Your Children to Be Like YouDo you want your children to be like you? As a parent, it is very important to take a look at what you are role modeling for your children - not only regarding how you treat others, but how you treat yourself. If there are certain values that you want your children to have when they grow up, they are far more likely to have your values if they deeply respect you.
To End or Not to End Your RelationshipIf one or both partners remain in the intent to protect, the relationship will not heal. Yet most relationships can be healed when both people are deeply devoted to learning about loving themselves and each other.
Does Your Life Lack MeaningYou will find deep meaning in your life when you decide to open to and learn from your feelings of loneliness rather than continue to shut them down. And you will open to these feelings only when you do not feel alone inside due to experiencing the love and wisdom of your spiritual Guidance. Opening to Divine Love and opening to your feelings will bring you the fullness, joy, passion and purpose t
The Fear of Expressing AngerOnce you understand that you can express your anger with an intention to learn, your fear of your own anger will go away. You don't have to repress your anger in order to not be like your parents. You can express it harmlessly in The Anger Process and learn about what your anger is trying to tell you.
Expressing Your Love Through ServiceEach of us needs to find the service that excites us, enlivens us and fills our heart with joy as we express God's love through our actions. Giving for the pure joy of giving feeds the soul. We love God by loving the children of God and serving them in any way we can. It is through service that we can truly grow spiritually. Through service, we are confronted with our issues and given the opportun
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