Men and Women - The Qualities We Seek In evolutionary terms, good judgment and intelligence equal survival and the transmission of one's genes across the generations. Faithfulness and a sense of responsibility (financial and otherwise) guarantee that the woman's partner will persevere in the all-important tasks of homebuilding and childrearing.Keywords:
Sam Vaknin, abuse, antisocial, battering, divorce, domestic violence, dsm-iv, ego, harassment, narcissism, narcissistic, narcissistic personality disorder, npd, object relations, personality, personality disorders, psychodynamics, psychopaths, psychotherapy, relationships, self, spousal abuse, stalk Tips on Dating and Online Dating There is a delicate balance to be maintained between the need to process the trauma of divorce (to recuperate, heal, and recover) and the need to maintain the interpersonal skills essential to dating and, later, to bonding and pair-formation (pairing).Keywords:
Sam Vaknin, abuse, antisocial, battering, divorce, domestic violence, dsm-iv, ego, harassment, narcissism, narcissistic, narcissistic personality disorder, npd, object relations, personality, personality disorders, psychodynamics, psychopaths, psychotherapy, relationships, self, spousal abuse, stalk Why Do We Love Sports? Sports cater to multiple psychological and physiological deep-set needs. In this they are unique: no other activity responds as do sports to so many dimensions of one's person, both emotional, and physical.Keywords:
Sam Vaknin, narcissism, personality, narcissistic, narcissistic personality disorder, NPD, psychopaths, antisocial, psychopathology, therapy, relationships, abuse, divorce, battering, spousal abuse, domestic violence, psychotherapy, personality disorders, cluster B, DSM IV, self, ego, object relatio A Typology of Codependence and the Dependent Personality Disorder Codependence is a complex, multi-faceted, and multi-dimensional defence against the codependent's fears and needs.Keywords:
Sam Vaknin, narcissism, personality, narcissistic, narcissistic personality disorder, NPD, psychopaths, antisocial, psychopathology, therapy, relationships, abuse, divorce, battering, spousal abuse, domestic violence, psychotherapy, personality disorders, cluster B, DSM IV, self, ego, object relatio A Classification of Abusive Behaviors Overt abuse is the open and explicit, easily discernible, clear-cut abuse of another person in any way, shape, or form (verbal, physical, sexual, financial, psychological-emotional, etc.).Keywords:
Sam Vaknin, abuse, antisocial, battering, divorce, domestic violence, dsm-iv, ego, harassment, narcissism, narcissistic, narcissistic personality disorder, npd, object relations, personality, personality disorders, psychodynamics, psychopaths, psychotherapy, relationships, self, spousal abuse, stalk Dreams of Mental Illness In my dream, a squadron of high-ranking Nazis invades my rented apartment with the aim of confiscating my collections (mainly books I had packed in cardboard boxes and stashed in what passed for storage space in my real abode in Israel many years ago).Keywords:
Sam Vaknin, narcissism, personality, narcissistic, narcissistic personality disorder, NPD, psychopaths, antisocial, psychopathology, therapy, relationships, abuse, divorce, battering, spousal abuse, domestic violence, psychotherapy, personality disorders, cluster B, DSM IV, self, ego, object relatio Narcissistic Injury, Narcissistic Wound, and Narcissistic Scar Narcissistic Wound
A repeated or recurrent identical or similar threat (real or imagined) to the narcissist's grandiose and fantastic self-perception (False Self) as perfect, omnipotent, omniscient, and entitled to special treatment and recognition, regardless of his actual accomplishments (or lack thereof).Keywords:
Sam Vaknin, narcissism, personality, narcissistic, narcissistic personality disorder, NPD, psychopaths, antisocial, psychopathology, therapy, relationships, abuse, divorce, battering, spousal abuse, domestic violence, psychotherapy, personality disorders, cluster B, DSM IV, self, ego, object relatio Narcissistic Mothers and Their Children Children of narcissistic parents are ill-adapted; their personality is rigid and they are prone to deploy psychological defense mechanisms. Consequently, they display the same behaviors throughout the relationship, from start to finish and irrespective of changing circumstances.Keywords:
Sam Vaknin, narcissism, personality, narcissistic, narcissistic personality disorder, NPD, psychopaths, antisocial, psychopathology, therapy, relationships, abuse, divorce, battering, spousal abuse, domestic violence, psychotherapy, personality disorders, cluster B, DSM IV, self, ego, object relatio The Body as a Torture Chamber In a way, the torture victim's own body is rendered his worst enemy. It is corporeal agony that compels the patient to mutate, his identity to fragment, his ideals and principles to crumble. The body becomes an accomplice of the affliction, an uninterruptible channel of communication, a treasonous, poisoned territory.Keywords:
Sam Vaknin, narcissism, personality, narcissistic, narcissistic personality disorder, NPD, psychopaths, antisocial, psychopathology, therapy, relationships, abuse, divorce, battering, spousal abuse, domestic violence, psychotherapy, personality disorders, cluster B, DSM IV, self, ego, object relatio Narcissist of Substance vs. Narcissist of Appearances There seem to be two types of narcissists: those who derive ample narcissistic supply from mere appearances and those whose narcissistic supply consists of doing substantial deeds, of acting as change-agents, of making a difference, and of creating and producing things of value. The former aim for celebrity (defined as 'being famous for being famous'), the latter aim for careers in the limelight.Keywords:
Sam Vaknin, narcissism, personality, narcissistic, narcissistic personality disorder, NPD, psychopaths, antisocial, psychopathology, therapy, relationships, abuse, divorce, battering, spousal abuse, domestic violence, psychotherapy, personality disorders, cluster B, DSM IV, self, ego, object relatio Obama's Narcissism Made Worse in First Year in Office Obama's pronoun density has doubled between January 20, 2009 and October 2009. It then subsided, though it is still about 50% over the level exhibited during his election campaign. This would seem to indicate that his pathological narcissism has been exacerbated in office as he was probably basking in media attention and the trappings of power. The backlash, such as it was, against several of his more egregious behaviours and faux-pas led him to modify his conduct and pay closer attention to his syntax and grammar: Obama is now acting modest. False modesty is another hallmark of raging, malignKeywords:
Sam Vaknin, narcissism, personality, narcissistic, narcissistic personality disorder, NPD, psychopaths, antisocial, psychopathology, therapy, relationships, abuse, divorce, battering, spousal abuse, domestic violence, psychotherapy, personality disorders, cluster B, DSM IV, self, ego, object relatio Transformations of Aggression The narcissist's favourite sadistic cocktail is brutal honesty coupled with 'helpful advice' and 'concern' for the welfare of the person attacked. The narcissist blurts out - often unprovoked - hurtful observations. These statements are invariably couched in a socially impeccable context. Akin to 'anger management', the sadistic narcissist also requires 'truth management' to teach him how to contain his impulsive and offensive 'honesty' and 'directness'.Keywords:
Sam Vaknin, abuse, antisocial, battering, divorce, domestic violence, dsm-iv, ego, harassment, narcissism, narcissistic, narcissistic personality disorder, npd, object relations, personality, personality disorders, psychodynamics, psychopaths, psychotherapy, relationships, self, spousal abuse, stalk Why Narcissists Cheat on their Spouses, Commit Adultery and have Extramarital Affairs and Liaisons Marriage, monogamy, and child-bearing and rearing are common activities that characterize the average person. The narcissist feels robbed of his uniqueness by these pursuits and coerced into the relationship and into roles - such as a husband and a father - that reduce him to the lowest of common denominators. This narcissistic injury leads him to rebel and reassert his superiority and specialness by maintaining extramarital affairs.Keywords:
Sam Vaknin, abuse, antisocial, battering, divorce, domestic violence, dsm-iv, ego, harassment, narcissism, narcissistic, narcissistic personality disorder, npd, object relations, personality, personality disorders, psychodynamics, psychopaths, psychotherapy, relationships, self, spousal abuse, stalk PCL-R (Psychopathy Checklist Revised) Test: What's Wrong with Psychological Tests The PCL-R is based on a structured interview and collateral data gathered from family, friends, and colleagues and from documents. The questions comprising the structured interview are so transparent and self-evident that it is easy to lie one's way through the test and completely skew its results. Moreover, scoring by the diagnostician is highly subjective (which is why the DSM and the ICD stick to observable behaviours in its criteria for Antisocial or Dissocial Personality Disorder).Keywords:
Sam Vaknin, narcissism, personality, narcissistic, narcissistic personality disorder, NPD, psychopaths, antisocial, psychopathology, therapy, relationships, abuse, divorce, battering, spousal abuse, domestic violence, psychotherapy, personality disorders, cluster B, DSM IV, self, ego, object relatio Uncover Your True Brand Story By Gaining Consumer Insight Stories are powerful when used as a way of understanding what a brand means today, enabling meaningful brand stretch tomorrow. Gaining consumer insight about their full brand experience helps to identify emotional connections. Memories come from many sources and are hugely powerful in making emotional connections. Working out whether memories consumers have are personal, founded in a product truth or derived from marketing activity, will help to build stronger relationships with consumers.Keywords:
Michiel Van Kets, co-creation, NPD, consumer insight
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