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Being A Victim Is Always A Choice

Article Summary: Who do you blame when your life goes off the rails? You parents? Your genes? Your partner? Your friends? Well whomever or whatever it is by doing so you have automatically identified yourself as a victim. By having done so you have also "become" one. What are the consequences to you of such an identification? How can you shift out of such an identification to a place of personal power an mastery over your life? Well If these questions interest you you may wish to read on.

Do you blame your past, your family, your partner, your job, your circumstances or a host of other things for your unfortunate place in life? If so then, by definition, you are choosing to identify yourself as a victim.
Now I know that being a victim feels awful but what I'm going to say next may help you reconsider making such a choice. Choice? Yes choice! That is because that's exactly what your making. Let me explain.

What is the purpose of believing yourself to be a victim? You might say that there is no purpose. It's just a fact, right? Well, please, if you will choose to read on, consider the following argument and see if it applies to you.

One purpose of identifying one's self as victim is so that:

1) One can blame someone or something else for one's situation, so that,

2) One can feel relieved of any blame or responsibility for their situation, so that,

3) One can feel better about themselves i.e. more relaxed, calmer, more self accepting, greater self worth, and greater self esteem.

So in summary:

(A) Identifying one's self as a victim helps them feel more relaxed, calmer, more self accepting, greater self worth and greater self esteem.
Now re-read statement (A) and decide for yourself whether it sounds like a rational or reasonable statement to you.

In order to help you you may wish to recall the last time you felt like a victim. You probably felt some or all of the following: hurt, anger, fear, diminished, shame, weak, powerless, helpless etc.

Now in this last description of feeling like a victim did you feel anything like: relaxed, calmer, more self accepting, greater self worth and greater self esteem? Not likely. Hence, even though you may have agreed with the logic that led to statement (A) it appears that the conclusion, statement (A) itself is not feeling true to you is it? Well that's because it isn't!

If you recognize this small fact then you may wish to acknowledge this to yourself right now. Once you've done that notice how you feel inside. If you've followed me so far you may be feeling some or all of the following: a sense of relief, more relaxed, more hopeful, stronger, more confident, lighter, more expansive, happier and a greater sense of self worth.

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About the Author:
Nick Arrizza M.D.
Nick Arrizza M.D. is a Retired Toronto Psychiatrist, Author, International Healer, Researcher, developer of the powerful Mind Resonance Process™ (MRP), Trainer in MRP and on Faculty at Akamai University (Hawaii. USA). His Web Site is: http://www.telecoaching4u.com